Asking for help

Many moms I know struggle to ask for help in many forms. 

Burnout living is a choice.  That is once you learn you can craft your life another way. 

Like somehow, it's easier to exasperate ourselves and get to our breaking point before investing in support for ourselves and our mental health. 

Women, the system was not designed to support us. It doesn't give you a road map or blueprint. 

Somehow between the time you were pregnant, growing your family, and are working full time with young children, you are on the same rinse/repeat hamster wheel. It's because we don't often have a lot of safety in sharing we are struggling. 

We feel like we're torn or failing. 

I meet a mom every day that I know is over-functioning and overcompensating in so many areas.

I was that mom too. 

I wanted to be doing so much for my kids outside of my full-time job, but I was also cracking. Cracking on every level. Breaking inside because I couldn't keep up. I was crazy making because I wanted to give more and be more to them. With the texts of the mental load, the event planning, the things in the folders, the 'attempting' to keep up. 

So what I ask of you when you hit this point, give yourself permission to be held. Give yourself permission to slowly find another way.  Give yourself permission to loosen the grip. To soften. To surrender. To let some things fall off. To lay the burden in someone else's hands that may be able to see it objectively. 

Give yourself permission to trust there may be some other tools, ways, and support to take care of your nervous system, your mental health, and your rhythm. 

I'm not at all about quick fixes. This is journey work. But it can be done with compassion and reframing as well. This is deep work beyond basic self-care. So many moms have been living in fight or flight for years. 

Our bodies feel like we are a young mom on edge looking for tigers.  

Guess what, we can calm that down. We can live in the now. We can adjust our pace and mindset. We can make choices that serve us.  

It's not going to happen in a day. Or a month... It will likely be quiet. You'll be figuring it out as you go with intention and awareness. 

You'll be crafting the new evolved being that feels more in control of her emotions and body, and her power.  

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